Read this short thought piece titled Wealth With Intention: Aligning Family Wealth with Values, for Families and their Advisors, published in Talking Trends online magazine on July 7, 2026; also check out this brief video clip.

 

Wealth With Intention: Aligning Family Wealth with Values, for Families and their Advisors

Last updated: July 7, 2026

Quick Answer

Wealth with intention is the concept of aligning a family’s financial decisions, governance, investing, philanthropy, and public presence, with its clearly articulated set of shared values, rather than measuring success only by external markers like career achievement or investment performance.

For families, it starts with a facilitated process to surface individual and shared values and codify them into a usable framework.

For professional advisors, it provides the values-based foundation on which governance, philanthropic, and succession planning should be built, rather than treated as a separate conversation from the financial one.

What “Wealth With Intention” Means

Wealth is typically discussed in terms of assets, structures, and strategies. Families who thrive across generations, and who preserve legacy and identity alongside capital, tend to approach wealth differently. Rather than measuring only external markers, career achievements, philanthropic gifts, investment performance, they use wealth as a tool for living with purpose.

At its core, wealth with intention begins with a deceptively simple question: What are our family’s values? For families of significant wealth, this isn’t a philosophical exercise. It’s the foundation of long-term cohesiveness, clarity, and impact, and it’s the question that should precede, not follow, governance and estate planning.

Step One: Defining Who You Are, Individually and Collectively

Every family has a story, but not every family has articulated it thoughtfully. Wealth with intention requires deliberately exploring identity at two levels: who am I as an individual, and who are we as a family?

In practice, this generally involves a facilitated process, incorporating structured conversations, individual interviews with family members, and guided reflection, designed to surface individual and shared values. The goal is to distill divergent views into a concise, shared set of principles (integrity, stewardship, service, learning, humility, excellence, generosity are common examples), without requiring unanimity on every point.

This process typically clarifies four distinct beliefs:

1. Personal identity: the values that guide each individual family member’s decisions and behavior.
2. Family identity: the shared principles that bind generations and family branches together.
3. Internal culture: the expectations, norms, and traditions that shape daily family life.
4. External presence: how the family wants to be perceived, whether through public visibility or quiet influence. Some families want their name on a building; others prefer to contribute discreetly. Both are valid choices, what matters is that the choice is intentional rather than default.

These values become the benchmark against which every governance, investment, philanthropy, and public-presence decision is measured going forward.

Step Two: Codifying Values into a Usable Framework

Values function as the connective tissue of a family’s legacy. They answer the questions behind the wealth: why do we have these resources, and why were we given these opportunities?

When families take the time to identify shared values, they typically discover the common threads that unite them across branches, generations, and life stages, threads that aren’t visible when the conversation stays focused on assets alone.

Identifying values, however, is only the first step. The next is codification: turning abstract ideas into practical commitments. This can take the form of a family vision, mission, or values statement; a set of governance bylaws; or a full family constitution.

The specific document format matters less than the underlying process, clearly defining roles, responsibilities, and decision rights across generations, and ensuring investment, philanthropic, and governance decisions actually align with what the family says it stands for. The process itself is the real deliverable.

Step Three: Living Intentionally in a World of Abundance

For families with significant resources, the range of available options is nearly unlimited. That abundance can empower a family or overwhelm it. Wealth with intention functions as a filter, helping a family choose opportunities that align with its identity and decline those that don’t.

In practice, intentional living means:

• Using wealth to reinforce personal and collective character, not just fund lifestyle;
• Making decisions based on long-term purpose rather than short-term convenience;
• Treating privilege as a platform for contribution rather than a source of complacency;
• Teaching rising generations not just how to manage wealth, but how to steward it; and
• Using consistent language across family communications that reinforces both internal identity and external presence.

Families of wealth frequently express a desire to “make the world a better place.” Wealth with intention converts that aspiration into a concrete framework for action, deploying financial, social, intellectual, and emotional capital deliberately rather than reactively. Privilege, in this framing, isn’t something to hide or apologize for; it’s something to use wisely, thoughtfully, and generously.

Why This Matters for Professional Advisors

For attorneys, CPAs, and wealth managers, “wealth with intention” isn’t a soft add-on to technical planning, it’s the values framework that governance, estate, and philanthropic structures should be built to serve. A family constitution or philanthropic mission statement drafted without first surfacing the family’s actual shared values tends to produce documents that look good on paper but don’t hold up under real family pressure. Advisors who help clients do the values work first, then align governance and planning documents to it, produce more durable outcomes than those who treat structure and identity as separate workstreams.

Key Takeaways

• Wealth with intention means measuring success by alignment with values, not only by external financial or philanthropic markers.
• The process starts with surfacing personal and family identity across four layers: personal identity, family identity, internal culture, and external presence.
• Codification through a mission statement, values statement, bylaws, or family constitution, turns identified values into a usable decision-making framework.
• Intentional families use abundance as a filter for decision-making, not an open field of unlimited options.
• For advisors, values work should precede, not follow, governance and succession planning, since documents built on unarticulated values rarely hold up under family pressure.

 

Wealth Legacy Advisors LLC works with multigenerational families, family offices, and family-owned businesses on governance, family meeting facilitation, and succession planning. Learn more about our approach at WLALLC.com.

 

Susan Schoenfeld, a public speaker & thought partner to families of wealth and their advisors, is an award-winning thought leader and family wealth counselor. Susan’s transition from a successful estate planning attorney and CPA to a trusted family advisor and thought partner was sparked by the deeper, more probing questions she received from wealthy families, questions that went far beyond traditional estate tax planning. As a conflict-free advisor who provides no investment, tax, or legal advice, and sells no product, Susan offers unfiltered, actionable insights directly to high-net-worth families and financial professionals alike. Her expertise and thought leadership have made her a sought-after keynote speaker at prestigious conferences across the United States and a leading facilitator to families of wealth.

 

The Community Foundation for Southeast Michigan in partnership with Planned Giving Roundtable of Southeast Michigan invited me to Bloomfield Hills, MI for a half-day conversation with donors, professional advisors, and nonprofit partners about the human side of wealth on June 11, 2026.

They excerpted my remarks into this article, published on June 22, 2026:  5 Family Philanthropy Lessons from Susan Schoenfeld.

 

5 Family Philanthropy Lessons from Susan Schoenfeld

Click to read this short thought piece discussing How to Build Family Cohesiveness That Lasts, as published in Inspiration and Insights online magazine on June 2, 2026.

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Regardless of their degree of wealth, success, or public recognition, families face a common challenge: staying connected in meaningful, enduring ways across generations. Not long ago, I worked with a large, highly visible family whose patriarch expressed this concern clearly. He said to me, “Your mandate is to restore harmony among my children.” That simple but powerful directive reflects a deeper truth: family cohesiveness does not happen by accident; it must be intentionally cultivated.

In my experience, the cornerstone of family cohesiveness is the deliberate and consistent creation of opportunities for communication and connection. Without these, even the strongest families can drift apart. Life gets busy, individual priorities take precedence, and over time, shared identity begins to erode. What’s required is a thoughtful approach that consistently brings people together, not just physically, but emotionally and relationally.

With this particular family, we implemented a solution that I often recommend: an annual family gathering or reunion designed with an eye to both purpose and flexibility. Importantly, the gathering was not solely focused on the family’s business, although it did include structured elements around shared responsibilities and long-term planning, and a session or two updating the family members about the family’s common investments. Equally essential were the fun, social elements: creating space for the informal, unplanned moments that allow family members to reconnect on a human level, and not just in their familiar family roles. These moments often prove to be the most transformative.

It’s important to pay close attention to creating environments where connections can happen organically, even among individuals who might not naturally gravitate toward one another. In many families, not every relationship is close, and that’s perfectly normal. However, by designing experiences that encourage interaction, shared meals, facilitated conversations, and collaborative activities, we were able to create new pathways for connection. Over time, these small interactions began to build familiarity and trust.

A critical component of this strategy was sustainability. I advised the patriarch to formalize his commitment by endowing the annual gathering. This meant creating a dedicated fund to ensure that, even after his passing, future generations would continue to come together. The fund was designed to cover travel expenses, meals, accommodations, activities, babysitting, and the cost of a professional facilitator. This removed logistical and financial barriers, making participation accessible and more likely for all.

Why is this so important? Because as families grow, they also become more complex. Siblings may share a common history, but even then, differences can create distance. As the family expands to include married-ins, cousins and subsequent generations, that shared narrative becomes increasingly diluted. Without intentional efforts to preserve connection, the sense of belonging can fragment.

This is why crafting and reinforcing a shared family story is so essential. Families need a narrative that binds them together, a sense of who they are, where they come from, and what they stand for. But storytelling alone is not enough. That narrative must be experienced and reinforced through regular interaction. Gathering together provides the space for those stories to be told, retold, and lived.

Equally important is the role of a neutral facilitator at family meetings. Siblings often fall into familiar patterns of negative behavior, what I sometimes refer to as “sandbox behavior,” where old dynamics resurface and productive communication breaks down. A skilled facilitator helps guide conversations, ensuring that all voices are heard and that discussions remain constructive. They create a safe environment where difficult topics can be addressed without escalating into conflict.

Ultimately, fostering family cohesiveness is not about eliminating differences; it is about creating a framework where differences can coexist within a foundation of mutual respect and understanding. It requires intention, structure, and a long-term commitment. But when done well, the rewards are profound: stronger relationships, a clearer sense of identity, and a legacy of connection that endures across generations.

Families that prioritize these efforts are not just preserving harmony in the present, they are investing in the resilience and unity of generations to come.